So here it goes:
A photo of me at my sweet sixteen. Obviously, I am very concerned about something.
Stop relying on others to validate you.
You are a strong, smart and beautiful person all on your own. You don't need to wake up at 5 am to straighten those beautiful curls. You don't need to force small pieces of plastic into your eyes (they won't work anyway, because your vision is just that bad). You don't need cosmetic surgery to fix something that is a problem for someone else. Bullying is not 'just a thing kids have to go through' and you need to speak to someone. Seriously, speak to someone - stop pretending you are okay. I also want you to know that you are not ungrateful for feeling depressed. It's a flaw in your brain chemistry, not your character. If you have to hide your pain from your 'friends', then they are not your friends. True friends will celebrate your successes with you, and mourn the losses with you. When those people enter your life, you will know - trust me. If you want to wear black eyeliner and listen to punk rock - do it! Who cares if you are too 'white-washed', do what makes you happy. Dear me, please don't dumb yourself down or neglect your interests and opinions for a boy. Please don't. It's okay to be smart, to like what you like and to not agree with everything that comes out of his mouth. Trust me, you will find someone who loves all of your quirks and who values you, just the way you are. Dear me, you don't have to hang out with people you don't like just to feel accepted. You also don't have to throw a huge party for these people to like you, you're going to feel alone in that room anyway. The truth is, no matter how many eggshells you walk on - someone will still dislike you. That's just the nature of people. Let the spark for your inner flame come from within, and you will never feel alone again.
Never forget that time is fleeting and change is the only constant. It all may feel like the end of the world now, but it won't feel that way forever. Be resilient and learn from the hard times. Use these times to build character, not a wall. Dear me, you are going to survive and grow and life is going to be great.
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